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Uzor Arukwe hates Nollywood filmmakers casting actors based on Instagram followers

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Uzor Arukwe hates Nollywood filmmakers casting actors based on Instagram followers

The actor who plays lead in Criminal says that casting should be based on talent and not followers.

Uzor Arukwe [Instagram/Uzor.Arukwe]

Now he would spend the rest of his day doing promotional work – videos for social media, interviews with the press – for Criminal. He wore striking pink Valentino slides

In Criminal, Arukwe played an ex-convict, who leads a gang of criminals, played by Chuks Joseph, Bryan Okoye and Austin Onuoha, to hold a hospital hostage. It’s the kind of film that gets his blood pumping. He loved the character so much that during a heated debate with the cast, he insisted there was no bullying within their ranks. “Maybe I’m still thinking as the character,” he later said.

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As a theatre-trained actor, he is one of the few A-list male performers who didn’t transition to cinema and TV from a career as a model. All he had was his talent at a time when the industry desperately needed numbers. People had begun to invest more in Nollywood and producers wanted to prove to investors they could get returns on their investments.

I remember all so clearly when I started. It was a big problem for me,” he said.

There was a time in this industry when it was mostly about Instagram and Twitter followers, and stuff like that. I didn’t understand it but knew it was something I had to be at peace with, because a production house wants to hire you and they’re looking at your numbers. ‘But can he act?’ That is the question I always ask. But there are some people who are blessed who are fantastic actors who have numbers and they’ve been doing well.

After he played Toke Makinwa’s husband in Sugar Rush (2019), the doors to the big league opened. He featured in Prophetess (2021), The Set Up 2 (2022), and A Tribe Called Judah (2023), Nollywood’s highest-grossing film of all time. “It’s been really tough. But I love the job too much,” he said.

In an industry where actors can become obscure just as quickly as they become famous, Arukwe doesn’t worry about relevance. “I don’t, to be fair. I only care about performance. I feel like if I can give value, if I can give a really good performance, people will always come to me, regardless of whatever is happening. I might not be buzzing at the time, but my time will always come. That’s how I see it,” he said.

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Arukwe is now 40, but he has been able to stay in the industry without any scandals, not even a social media drag, a public misstep, call out from a co-star or an ex-girlfriend.

I’m sure I’ve made some bad choices that are just not out there. I’m a very reserved guy. I try to just live my life. But if it happens tomorrow, it wouldn’t stop me,” he said.

Over the years Nollywood has grown from a tiny market churning out hundreds of low-budget content weekly, to a beast netting millions of dollars in cinema ticket sales yearly, and submitting work for the Oscars.

It’s still not there yet, but the attention on the industry from the global north has forced actors to abandon old tropes of archetypal performances and embody their characters more. Arukwe is excited about this, but he doesn’t want the industry to become infested by method acting.

I always tell people that it’s not every film that you have to use method. I don’t even think that method is a good technique for acting. But depending on the scene I might use method and use mostly listening and responding in the other scene,” he said.

It can be a narcissistic style of performance. The thing about method actors is they are not the nicest of colleagues on set. Imagine if I’m playing a brute and I come on set, it’s a very unrealistic form. Method acting takes a lot of homework. You’re absorbing this person for months.

But away from method acting, the industry, and its obsession with numbers, Criminal, and even this interview, Arukwe has bigger fish to fry. He wants to do a Hollywood film.

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I think everybody has a dream to do something in Hollywood. That’s one of the reasons I started doing this in the first place. The next phase for me will be to do some big collaborations with Hollywood. Even if it’s not Hollywood, South Africa, or England. You know some major films, classics that will transcend time,” he said.

5 projects affected by the Drake Vs Kendrick Lamar rap beef

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5 projects affected by the Drake Vs Kendrick Lamar rap beef

Here are five projects that has been affected by the rap beef between Drake and Kendrick Lamar.

5 projects affected by the Drake Vs Kendrick Lamar rap beef

Kendrick Lamar’s guest appearance on ‘Like That’ off Metro Booming & Future’s joint album ‘We Don’t Trust You’ caused a stir as the 17 times took shots at Drake and J Cole over their “Big 3” claims on their collaboration ‘First Person Shooter’ with the formal being the main target.

7 things you can do if your partner starts getting too close to their ex

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7 things you can do if your partner starts getting too close to their ex

When your partner starts getting too close to their ex, it can stir up a mix of emotions and concerns. Here’s an engaging approach to handling this delicate situation:

9. You disrespect yourself.

Before addressing the situation with your partner, take some time to understand your own feelings. Are you feeling jealous, insecure, or perhaps threatened? Acknowledging these emotions can help clarify what you need to discuss with your partner

Open communication is key in any relationship. Approach your partner in a non-confrontational way.

Express your feelings calmly and clearly without making accusations. For instance, you might say, “I’ve noticed you’ve been spending a lot of time with your ex recently, and it makes me feel a bit uneasy.”

Discuss what both of you consider acceptable behavior regarding ex-partners. Setting clear boundaries can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that both partners feel comfortable and respected. Remember, boundaries are not demands but agreements that respect both partners’ feelings.

Building and maintaining trust is crucial. Encourage an environment where both of you can share your feelings without fear of judgment. Trust is not just about being faithful, but also about being open and honest.

Try to understand why your partner wants to maintain a friendship with their ex. Sometimes, these relationships can be purely platonic and based on mutual respect without romantic feelings. Understanding the nature of their relationship can alleviate concerns.

Use this situation as an opportunity to assess and strengthen your relationship. Are there areas where you could improve communication or intimacy? Often, insecurities can be mitigated by reinforcing the connection between you and your partner.

If the situation is causing significant distress and you’re unable to resolve it together, it might be helpful to seek guidance from a relationship counselor. They can provide neutral advice and help you navigate complex emotions and situations.

Navigating the waters when your partner is close to their ex can be challenging, but with open communication, mutual respect, and clear boundaries, it’s possible to maintain a healthy relationship.

Remember, it’s okay to seek help if you find it overwhelming. Your feelings are valid, and addressing them directly and respectfully can lead to a stronger partnership.

 

DIY Recipes: How to make grilled croaker fish at home

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DIY Recipes: How to make grilled croaker fish at home

This recipe promises delicious results.

Grilled croaker fish [BellaNaija]

Grilled croaker fish is known for its flavorful, firm flesh and its versatility in recipes. Whether enjoyed in a simple family dinner or as part of a festive gathering, this dish brings a taste of the sea right to your plate.

Here’s a detailed guide on how to make grilled Croaker fish at home, complete with tasty marinade and serving suggestions.

To serve four people, you will need:

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  • 4 whole Croaker fish, cleaned and scaled
  • 2 tablespoons of olive oil or vegetable oil
  • Juice of 1 lemon
  • 3 cloves of garlic, minced
  • 1 teaspoon of ground pepper (black or white)
  • 1 teaspoon of paprika
  • 1/2 teaspoon of ground ginger
  • 1/2 teaspoon of thyme
  • Salt to taste
  • Fresh parsley, chopped (for garnish)
  • Lemon wedges (for serving)
  • Grill (charcoal or electric)
  • Brush for oiling
  • Fish grilling basket (optional, but helpful)
  • Aluminium foil
  • Mixing bowl

1. Prepare the marinade: In a mixing bowl, combine olive oil, lemon juice, minced garlic, ground pepper, paprika, ground ginger, thyme, and salt. Mix well to create a vibrant marinade.

2. Marinate the Fish: Make shallow diagonal cuts on both sides of each fish to allow the marinade to penetrate deeply.

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Rub the marinade generously over the fish, making sure some gets into the cuts and cavity. Cover and let marinate for at least 30 minutes, or up to 2 hours in the refrigerator for enhanced flavor.

1. Preheat the grill: If using a charcoal grill, allow it to reach a medium-high heat (about 350°F). For electric grills, preheat to the same temperature.

2. Prepare the fish for grilling: If using a fish basket, lightly oil it and place your marinated fish inside. If not using a basket, you can place the fish directly on the grill but ensure the grill is well oiled to prevent sticking.

3. Grill the fish: Place the fish on the hot grill. Grill each side for about 5-7 minutes, depending on the size of the fish.

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The fish should be turned once halfway through to ensure even cooking. The fish is done when its skin is nicely charred and the flesh flakes easily with a fork.

1. Rest the fish: Let the fish rest for a few minutes after grilling. This helps the juices redistribute, keeping the fish moist.

2. Garnish and serve: Sprinkle chopped fresh parsley over the grilled fish for a fresh, herby flavour. Serve hot with lemon wedges.

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Grilled Croaker fish is versatile and pairs well with a variety of sides. You can serve with jollof rice, fried plantain, potato chips, salad or veggies.

Deafness: Causes, treatment, and management

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Deafness: Causes, treatment, and management

Deafness, a condition affecting millions worldwide, can significantly impact one’s quality of life and communication abilities.

Deafness: Causes, treatment, and management [UF Health]

From congenital causes to acquired conditions, understanding the underlying factors, available treatments, and effective management strategies is crucial for individuals living with deafness and their caregivers.

Let’s delve into the multifaceted world of deafness to shed light on its causes, treatment options, and practical management approaches.

Deafness can arise from various factors, both congenital and acquired. Congenital deafness may be due to genetic abnormalities, maternal infections during pregnancy, or complications during childbirth.

Acquired deafness can result from exposure to loud noises, aging (presbycusis), infections (such as meningitis or otitis media), traumatic injuries, or certain medications (ototoxic drugs).

Understanding the specific cause of deafness is essential for determining appropriate treatment and management strategies.

Treatment options: The treatment of deafness depends on its underlying cause and severity. For individuals with conductive hearing loss caused by problems in the outer or middle ear, treatment options may include medication, surgical procedures (such as tympanoplasty or stapedectomy), or the use of hearing aids to amplify sound.

Sensorineural hearing loss, affecting the inner ear or auditory nerve, may require cochlear implants, which bypass damaged parts of the ear and directly stimulate the auditory nerve to provide sound perception.

In cases of profound deafness or when traditional treatments are ineffective, sign language and communication therapies can help individuals adapt to their hearing loss and enhance their communication skills.

Effective management of deafness involves a comprehensive approach that addresses the physical, emotional, and social aspects of living with hearing loss.

Communication strategies, such as lip-reading, sign language, and assistive listening devices, can facilitate effective communication and social interaction.

Educating family members, friends, and caregivers about deafness and communication techniques can foster understanding and support for individuals with hearing loss.

Access to educational resources, vocational training, and support services, including counseling and advocacy groups, can empower individuals with deafness to lead fulfilling and independent lives.

Additionally, incorporating environmental modifications, such as installing visual alarms and captioning services, can enhance accessibility and safety for individuals with hearing loss in various settings.

Deafness is a complex and diverse condition that requires tailored approaches to treatment and management.

By understanding the underlying causes of deafness, exploring available treatment options, and implementing practical management strategies, individuals with hearing loss can overcome challenges and thrive in their personal and professional lives.

Embracing inclusive practices, promoting awareness and education, and fostering supportive communities are essential steps towards creating a more accessible and inclusive society for individuals with deafness.

Fans left concerned after Skales posted a video of his face covered in blood

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Fans left concerned after Skales posted a video of his face covered in blood

He has not made another post since and his fans are worried.

Skales posts disturbing video on Instagram and followers react

Although Skales did not provide details about the cause of his injuries, he expressed his gratitude in the post saying, “THANK YOU JESUS.”

The post led to a series of reactions from his followers and fellow celebrities who in turn expressed their concern in the comment section. Singer Nasboi said, “I am so sorry my brother 😢.” Nollywood actor Deyemi asked, “Accident? Sorry man”.

Big Brother Naija star Queen Mercy Atang commented, “Jesus Christ. What happened 😢,” while popular producer T-classic said, “Damn, I just hope this a makeup for a shoot.”

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While some followers worried about the singer, others remained sceptical about Skales’ post and injuries.

A follower said, “First me I know say nothing fit do u because oil Dey ur head … The make up artist is dope! Special effects 👏👏 the fact say na tissue paper u hold na him give am out .. when is the video coming out?”

“If this was real, you’d be In the hospital right now. Stop fooling around, get in the studio and sing,” another follower said.

Another commenter said, “Bro I almost got tricked mehnnnn. 😂 I don enter your WhatsApp now now. 😂 you try shaaa 👏”

That’s 1 of the biggest problems – RMD calls out the hypocrisy in christianity

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That’s 1 of the biggest problems – RMD calls out the hypocrisy in christianity

He says that people should be able to go to Christ as they are and be renewed.

Richard Mofe-Damijo  [Instagram/RMD]

Speaking as a guest on the King of Talks podcast hosted by Teju Babyface, the actor stated that his views about God and Christianity are unconventional

“My idea of Christ in today’s world and how we should embrace him is probably not very traditional. But I think the Lord says ‘That’s why I brought you here.’ so I stir quite a bit of controversy everywhere I speak. I think that I am appointed for a time like this, to do it unconventionally,” he said.

“Someone was telling me about someone doing a podcast about faith and stardom and I said I’d love to do that. Why? Because of the way Christians are wired. We were wired to think that the spirit of excellence should not be in you being a distiller. They thing that a distiller of whiskey shouldn’t be called a Christian. Why? It’s a craft,” he said.

RMD emphasised that the essence of Christianity is for Christians to be able to come just as they are to the church.

He said, “People built boats in the period that Christ lived. People owned vineyards and produced all the best wines in the area at the time. If they wanted to be followers of Christ, they could. That’s the whole essence of following Christ. Come as you are.”

“People are meant to come as they are. You can’t stop people from coming to Christ the way that they are. it’s when they come that their renewal starts. So let them come and then function in the societies where they find themselves in a way that can bring people to Christ without being hypocritical. I think that’s one of the biggest problems of today’s church. It’s hypocrisy,” he concluded.

See the full interview below:

 

I can marry someone my parents don’t accept – Singer Nasboi

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I can marry someone my parents don’t accept – Singer Nasboi

He states that his parents can only advise him, but his happiness comes first.

Nigerian skit maker and singer Nasboi

In a recent interview with Tacha on Cool FM, the singer explained why he would go ahead and marry someone even if his mother does not accept her. Starting from his family history, he stated that because of his parents’ inter-tribal marriage, they can only advise him.

Tacha probed, “Would you marry who your parents do not accept?”

“Yes, I would,” he said. “I think I’ve had this conversation before and they wanted to kill me. My mum is not a Yoruba woman. She’s from Warri and she’s a Christian. Meanwhile my dad is Yoruba and Muslim. You see it looks like something impossible right? Yet it happened.”

He continued, “So I always tell my mum that if she feels like she has trained me well enough she doesn’t have to worry about my decisions. She can only advice because at the end of the day, it is I who would live with the person I marry, not her. So if she’s giving me happiness allow me marry her. That’s how I think about it.”

He emphasised the need for open communication between parents and their children in the scenario where the parents don’t like their partners.

“I don’t think parents should be selective. They can advise, yes, they can see something they don’t like and tell me then I can find a way to straighten it out. Not that they’d say I should not marry her, because if I marry someone else who looks perfect to them, she may not be perfect for me,” said the singer.

“I’m sorry to say, but our parents would die at one point so I’m the one who’s going to continue with my happiness or sadness. So I’m of the opinion that if parents see what they don’t like in our partner, they should tell us. But selecting partners for us won’t go well,” he concluded.

Anticipation builds up for Tems’ debut album ‘Born In The World’

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Anticipation builds up for Tems’ debut album ‘Born In The World’

Tems is set to release her highly-anticipated debut studio album, ‘Born In The Wild’, in May under Since ’93/RCA Records

Tems

Tems, the acclaimed Nigerian artist, is set to captivate audiences worldwide with her highly-anticipated debut studio album, ‘Born In The Wild’.

Kizz Daniel fills up OVO Wembley Arena in a landmark concert

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Kizz Daniel fills up OVO Wembley Arena in a landmark concert

Kizz Daniel joins the list of Nigerian artists who have sold out Arenas in the United Kingdom.

Kizz Daniel fills up OVO Wembley Arena in a landmark concert

Kizz Daniel who is one of Afrobeats’ most reliable hitmakers sold out the 12,000-capacity OVO Arena in what is his biggest concert yet in the United States.

Since breaking into the mainstream in 2014 with his hit single ‘Woju,’ Kizz Daniel has soared to the summit of the Nigerian music industry with his steady release of hit singles and quality albums setting him aside.

At his OVO Arena concert, Kizz Daniel thrilled fans with some of his hit singles ‘Buga’, ‘Cough’, ‘Lie’, and ‘One Ticket’. He also performed the hits from his recently released EP ‘TZA (Thankz Alot)’.

The arena packed full of fans sang along as Kizz Daniel performed ‘Twe Twe’, ‘Too Busy To Be Bae’, ‘Sooner’, and ‘Showa’ for which he was joined on stage by his wife.

With his landmark show, Kizz Daniel became the latest Nigerian artist to sell out the OVO Arena as he follows Adekunle Gold who recently sold out the Arena.

Kizz Daniel’s 2024 has gotten off to a strong start with the Davido-assisted remix of his hit single ‘Twe Twe’ becoming the biggest song of the first quarter of 2024 according to TurnTable Charts.

These actors are nominated for an AMVCA for the first time in 2024

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These actors are nominated for an AMVCA for the first time in 2024

The 10th AMVCA nominees include fresh faces in the acting categories with names like Demola Adedoyin and Tana Adelana.

AMVCA 2024: First-time nominees shake up acting categories

Now in its 10th year, the award ceremony will mark the milestone with a series of events this week that will culminate with the award ceremony on Saturday, May 11, 2024.

The nominees for this 10th edition were announced on March 24, 2024, with much fanfare.

Among the films that were nominated, Breath of Life, Over the Bridge, and Mami Wata emerged as front-runners.

In the acting categories, there are first-time nominees whose performances show great promise, especially as the voting process in these categories has been changed from public voting to select jury.

See below the first-time nominees in the acting categories ahead of the 2024 AMVCA on Saturday:

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Acting is nothing new to Adedoyin, who has consistently put on a fantastic show in movies like October 1, The Bridge and Ile Owo. In Breath of Life, he portrayed young Timi, a talented and accomplished man whose life is cruelly turned upside down when he moves to Nigeria with his wife and daughter in the 1960s. For this role, he was nominated for Best Supporting Actor. BB Sasore is the director of the film, which is currently available on Prime Video.

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Yekini, better known by his stage name Itele D Icon, started acting in 2000. He has been in numerous films, such as Omo Ghetto: The Saga and Jagun Jagun (The Warrior), in which he played Gbogunmi. For this role, he was nominated for the first time for an AMVCA in the Best Supporting Actor category. Moses Inwang is the director of the film, which is currently streaming on Netflix.

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Chikere was nominated for Best Supporting Actor for his portrayal of Legbe, in the Netflix film, Blood Vessel, directed by Moses Inwang. The film follows Legbe and five others as they desperately flee their oil-polluted and politically unstable town. In a bid for a brighter future, they had to hide on a ship smuggling stolen oil, unknowingly putting themselves in grave danger as they faced a treacherous journey across the Atlantic.

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Beyond Ewenla’s work as a producer and a broadcaster, he has been featured in multiple films. This year he secured his first AMVCA nomination for Best Supporting Actor for his role as Ayorode in the film, Over the Bridge. The film tells the story of a man’s journey while grappling with his emotional state and the quest to rediscover purpose in the midst of internal and external pressures.

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Adelana’s role in the Netflix film, Ijogbon (The Chaos), directed by Kunle Afolayan, earned her a well-deserved nomination for Best Supporting Actress at this year’s AMVCA. The film tells the story of four teenagers living in a remote village called Oyo Oke, whose lives take an unexpected turn when they stumble upon a pouch containing uncut diamonds.

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Onojaife has built a filmography showcasing her acting talents in films such as When The Living Is Dead, Brotherhood and Domitilla. Her portrayal of Ibukun in the film, The Origin: Madam Koi-Koi, which tells the tale of a vengeful spirit who haunts the hallways of boarding schools, marked a breakthrough moment for her. The performance earned her a nomination for Best Supporting Actress at this year’s AMVCA.

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Ezekiel’s performance as Abbey in the Netflix film Blood Vessels, directed by Inwang, earned him an AMVCA nomination for the first time in the Best Lead Actor category this year.

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With her outstanding performance in the Netflix film Blood Vessels, Dibor was nominated for an AMVCA for Best Lead Actress, her first nomination. In the film, Dibor portrayed Oyin, the girlfriend of David Ezekiel‘s character Abbey, who becomes pregnant unexpectedly and has to deal with her father’s wrath.

Introducing Bobby NTY and his new single ‘High Tension’

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Introducing Bobby NTY and his new single ‘High Tension’

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Introducing Bobby NTY and his new single 'High Tension'

Born on the 4 October as Victor George Monday, Bobby NTY has been exceptional in Music. Being a Chorister that he is, he has been deeply rooted in Music from childhood to adulthood. He is an Afrobeat enthusiast, who explores other genres to create exceptional sound (melody, rhythm, harmonies, instrumentation) of which his motivative, inspiring, entertaining lyrics make his craft desirable by many who come across it.

Kizz Daniel shares a kiss with his wife as she joins him on stage (video)

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Kizz Daniel shares a kiss with his wife as she joins him on stage (video)

Oluwatobiloba Anidugbe, popularly known as Kizz Daniel, packed on the PDA with his wife Mrs. Anidugbe, born Ossai Adaeze Marian.

The singer was on stage, performing at his concert in London, when he was joined by his wife.

Marian put her hand on the singer’s shoulder and they shared a kiss while concertgoers cheered

7 signs your body might be lacking nutrients

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7 signs your body might be lacking nutrients

By prioritising your nutrient intake, you can invest in your overall health, well-being and allow your body to thrive.

Brittle hair may be a sign of nutrient deficiency [Youtube]

Nutrients like vitamins, minerals, and other essential elements are vital in keeping us energised, healthy, and feeling our best.

However, with our busy lives and ever-changing diets, it’s easy to fall short on certain nutrients.

While some deficiencies have specific symptoms, others can manifest in subtle ways that might be overlooked.

Here are seven common signs that could indicate you’re nutrient deficient:

Feeling constantly tired, even after a good night’s sleep, could be a sign of iron deficiency. Iron is crucial for transporting oxygen throughout the body, and when levels are low, fatigue becomes a common complaint. Other potential culprits for unexplained tiredness include deficiencies in vitamin B12, magnesium, and folate.

Healthy hair and nails are a reflection of overall health. Brittle, easily broken hair and nails can sometimes indicate a lack of essential nutrients like biotin, protein, and iron.

A weakened immune system is more susceptible to infections. Deficiencies in vitamins A, C, and D, as well as zinc, can all contribute to a lowered immune response.

Pale skin, especially when accompanied by fatigue, could be a sign of anemia, often caused by iron deficiency. Other skin problems, like dry, cracked skin or rashes, can also be linked to deficiencies in vitamins A, B complex, and essential fatty acids.

Canker sores, cracks at the corners of the mouth (angular cheilitis), or a swollen, inflamed tongue can sometimes be signs of deficiencies in B vitamins, iron, or zinc.

Feeling forgetful, having trouble focusing, or experiencing brain fog can be symptoms of deficiencies in iron, vitamin B12, and omega-3 fatty acids.

If wounds seem to take a long time to heal, it could be a sign of a protein or zinc deficiency. These nutrients play a vital role in tissue repair.

It’s important to note that these signs are not always indicative of a nutrient deficiency.

If you’re experiencing any of these symptoms consistently, it’s wise to consult a doctor or licensed dietitian. They can assess your individual needs and recommend appropriate dietary changes or supplements, if necessary.

By prioritising your nutrient intake, you can invest in your overall health, well-being and allow your body to thrive.

 

Toke Makinwa calls bleaching her skin ‘the dumbest thing’ she’d ever done

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Her confession has led to a series of reactions from her fans.

Toke Makinwa says that bleaching her skin was the dumbest thing ever [Instagram/tokemakinwa]

On May 4, 2024, Makinwa responded to a fan’s question on X which read, “If you could go back in time, what would you do differently?”

She said, “Nothing. Regret is so exhausting!!!! Wait, maybe bleaching my skin, it was the dumbest thing ever and I’m just so thankful for good genes and money cos…”

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Makinwa’s revelation led to a series of reactions in the comment section, with some applauding her for admitting her truth, and others encouraging her to “return to her natural skin tone.”

A commenter highlighted the danger of skin bleaching saying, “Thanks for sharing, people don’t know how damaging it can be to their skin and internal organs.”

“Then stop once you stop you reverse it; the only reason you’re still light skinned is cos you’re still doing it,” said another commenter.

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An X user commended Makinwa saying, “This is so great coming from you, hopefully, others see this and learn before it’s too late.”

“But genuinely asking, if you decided to stop won’t you just get back your natural skin tone back? I love how your dark-skinned sister looks and I think that’s how you looked as well. Anyway, you look beautiful now still, just think it might be exhausting,” a curious fan inquired.

“Ommoo, if you no get money ehn you eyes for don see shege. Anyways, it’s terrible to bleach. The end result will destroy your skin eventually!” said another.

Top 3 herbs to fight stubborn belly fat

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Top 3 herbs to fight stubborn belly fat

Some natural herbs have shown promise in aiding weight management.

The battle against belly fat is a common one [Maya Organics]

The battle against belly fat is a common one.

Stubborn visceral fat, accumulating around the organs, poses a significant health risk.

While maintaining a healthy diet and regular exercise are essential for weight management, some natural herbs have shown promise in aiding this process.

This article explores herbs that might offer a gentle yet effective boost in your fight against stubborn belly fat.

Cayenne pepper contains an active compound called capsaicin. Studies suggest capsaicin may increase metabolism and promote thermogenesis, the body’s process of burning calories to generate heat. Additionally, capsaicin may suppress appetite, potentially leading to reduced calorie intake.

Consider sprinkling a dash of cayenne pepper on scrambled eggs, adding it to stir-fries, or enjoying a warm cup of herbal tea infused with a touch of cayenne for a metabolism boost.

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Dandelion leaf, often dismissed as a pesky weed, holds potential benefits for fighting belly fat. This versatile herb may act as a natural diuretic, helping the body eliminate excess water weight. Additionally, dandelion leaf is a good source of fibre, which promotes satiety and can curb cravings.

While dandelion is generally safe, it’s advisable to consult a healthcare professional before use, especially if you have any underlying health conditions or are taking medications. Enjoy dandelion leaf as a tea, incorporate it into salads, or explore dandelion leaf supplements under the guidance of a healthcare professional.

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Fennel seed, a common ingredient in Mediterranean cuisine, offers a range of potential health benefits. Fennel may help reduce bloating and water retention, contributing to a trimmer appearance. Additionally, some studies suggest fennel may aid in digestion and regulate blood sugar levels, both of which can be factors in managing belly fat.

Fennel seeds can be enjoyed chewed raw, brewed as tea, or incorporated into roasted vegetables or homemade sausage for a subtle liquorish flavour.

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While these herbs hold promise, it’s crucial to remember they are best used as complementary tools alongside a balanced diet and regular exercise. Consulting a doctor or registered dietitian can help you create a personalized plan for managing belly fat and achieving your overall health goals.

Remember, consistency and a balanced approach are key to unlocking lasting results. So, explore these herbal options, prioritise a healthy lifestyle, and empower yourself on your journey to a trimmer you

10 foods to eat before drinking alcohol to prevent hangover

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10 foods to eat before drinking alcohol to prevent hangover

Before you raise that glass, let’s talk about what you’re putting into your body.

10 foods to eat before you drink - Guinness Nigeria

We all love a good time, but it’s important to be kind to your body, especially when you’re indulging in some drinks.

So, before you hit the bar or crack open that bottle, consider fueling up with some nutritious and delicious foods that can help you handle your alcohol better and avoid those dreaded hangovers.

Here are 10 foods that will be your best friends before a night of fun.

  1. Avocado: Let’s start with everyone’s favorite creamy green fruit. Avocados are packed with healthy fats, potassium, and fiber, which can help slow down alcohol absorption in your bloodstream. Spread some avocado on whole-grain toast or whip up some guacamole as a tasty pre-drinking snack.
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2. Eggs: Eggs are not just for breakfast; they’re a powerhouse of nutrients that can help protect your liver from the harmful effects of alcohol. They’re rich in cysteine, an amino acid that helps break down toxins in the liver. Have some scrambled eggs or a veggie omelet before heading out for the night.

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3. Bananas: Bananas are a fantastic source of potassium, which is essential for maintaining electrolyte balance in your body. Alcohol can deplete your potassium levels, leading to muscle cramps and fatigue. Munch on a banana or blend it into a smoothie for a quick potassium boost.

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4. Greek yogurt: Greek yogurt is not only delicious but also high in protein and probiotics, which can support your digestive system. Alcohol can disrupt your gut flora, leading to digestive issues and discomfort. Enjoy a bowl of Greek yogurt with some honey and nuts for a gut-friendly snack.

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5. Salmon: Salmon is loaded with omega-3 fatty acids, which have anti-inflammatory properties that can help reduce the inflammation caused by alcohol consumption. Grill or bake some salmon fillets and pair them with roasted vegetables for a nutritious pre-drinking meal.

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6. Spinach: Leafy greens like spinach are rich in vitamins and minerals, including vitamin C and magnesium, which can help neutralize the oxidative stress caused by alcohol. Whip up a spinach salad with some citrus fruits and nuts for a refreshing and nutrient-packed appetizer.

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7. Sweet potatoes: Sweet potatoes are an excellent source of complex carbohydrates, which can help stabilize your blood sugar levels and prevent that dreaded energy crash later in the night. Roast some sweet potato wedges or bake a sweet potato and top it with your favorite toppings for a satisfying snack.

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8. Oats: Oats are a great source of soluble fiber, which can help slow down the absorption of alcohol into your bloodstream and prevent rapid spikes in blood sugar. Start your day with a bowl of oatmeal topped with fruits and nuts to keep you feeling full and energized.

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9. Watermelon: Stay hydrated with some juicy watermelon, which is not only delicious but also high in water content and electrolytes. Alcohol can dehydrate your body, so snacking on water-rich foods like watermelon can help replenish your fluids and prevent dehydration.

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10. Nuts: Nuts are a convenient and nutritious snack that can help slow down alcohol absorption and keep you feeling full and satisfied. Choose unsalted nuts like almonds, walnuts, or cashews and munch on them throughout the night to curb your alcohol cravings.

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Eating the right foods before drinking alcohol can help prepare your body for a night of fun while minimizing the negative effects of alcohol.

Incorporate these nutrient-rich foods into your pre-drinking routine to stay healthy, happy, and hangover-free. Also, remember to drink responsibly and stay hydrated throughout the night. Cheers to good food and good times!

 

5 signs you are in a healthy relationship and you might have found the one

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5 signs you are in a healthy relationship and you might have found the one

What are the signs you are in a healthy relationship?

Here's how to know you are in a healthy relationship [istockphoto]

You might want to know if your relationship is a healthy or toxic one. Should you continue dating? or should you break up? Are your experiences normal or abnormal? If you have some questions about the person you are dating, here’s how to know if they are right for you.

If you don’t love them or the relationship as it is, it might be a sign that you are not in a healthy relationship. Is there cheating, arguments, fights, lying? Do you find how they do some mundane tasks irritating?

Many times, you might find yourself in love with the idea of a relationship or a person and not who they are or what the relationship is. Think about it, is the relationship as it is what you want? Is your boyfriend or girlfriend the kind of person you like and want to be with?

Remove all the fantasy thinking of what he or she could be like or what you want and see them as they are.

When two people come together, they don’t magically agree on every single thing. However, when you argue, fight or disagree, is the default response from both parties to burn the relationship to the ground, or you both are looking for ways to understand each other and work the issue out?

You must know and be assured of the love of your partner. You don’t need any other proof, they have assured you with words and actions of their love and commitment. If they act cold, lukewarm, distant, mean and silent towards you, that’s a big red flag no matter what they say.

If they are always complaining about how you are, it’s often a sign you are not meant to be in the relationship. They don’t like how you do so many things and they always complain about it.

One of the signs your relationship is healthy is that you feel accepted. You are your true self when you are with them and they love you for who you are. Of course, no one is perfect and we are all growing and changing.

One person cannot make you happy all the time, they can’t be your sole source of happiness and let’s face it, no one should want to be. If they don’t want you to have other friends or hang out with your family members, that’s a glaring sign they are not the one for you.

7 reasons men stay in relationships with women they don’t love

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7 reasons men stay in relationships with women they don’t love

Love is a beautiful thing, but relationships are complex.

Why men stay in unhappy relationships [AdobeStock]

Sometimes, men find themselves in relationships that have lost their emotional connection but decide to stay anyway. Why?

Movies may paint breakups as women leaving uncommitted men, but the reality is that men can also find themselves stuck in loveless marriages and relationships.

Here are seven common reasons men might stay with a partner they no longer love:

The thought of dating again can be discouraging, especially after a long-term relationship. The fear of the unknown, the effort required to put yourself back out there, and the potential for rejection can be paralysing. Men might stay in a loveless relationship simply because the familiar, even if unfulfilling, feels safer than the uncertainty of starting over.

Relationships provide a sense of comfort and routine. There’s a shared living space, established roles, and a built-in social circle. Leaving this behind can be disruptive, especially if children are involved.

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Men might stay for the sake of convenience, avoiding the hassle of detangling finances, dividing belongings, and creating new living arrangements.

Financial security is a major concern for many couples. Some men might find themselves financially dependent on their partner, making it difficult to consider leaving. The fear of financial hardship, the inability to afford separate housing, or the potential burden of child support can be a significant obstacle to ending a relationship.

When children are involved, the decision to stay in a relationship becomes even more complex. Men might prioritise the stability and well-being of their children, believing that staying in an unhappy marriage is better than a broken home.

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The fear of disrupting their children’s lives or the guilt of potentially damaging their relationship with their kids can be a powerful force keeping men in loveless marriages.

Societal pressures and stigma surrounding divorce can also play a role. Men might fear the judgment or disapproval of family, friends, or society at large. The traditional expectation of men being the “providers” and the stigma of a failed marriage can make leaving a loveless relationship seem like a personal failure.

Leaving a relationship can feel like admitting defeat. Some men might struggle to accept that their initial choice of partner wasn’t the right one. There can be a sense of pride or ego attached to staying in a relationship, even if it’s no longer fulfilling.

 

Sometimes, men stay in loveless relationships because they hold onto a sliver of hope that things might change. Perhaps they believe their partner will rediscover their feelings, or maybe they’re waiting for a specific milestone, like the kids growing up, before addressing the issue. This hope can be fueled by past experiences of overcoming challenges in the relationship, or simply a desire to avoid the pain of admitting defeat.

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These reasons aren’t justifications for staying in an unhappy relationship. These fears and concerns are valid, but they can ultimately lead to resentment, emotional detachment, and a general feeling of unhappiness for both partners.

If you find yourself in a relationship that no longer brings you joy, don’t be afraid to seek support and explore your options. You deserve to be in a relationship that is loving, fulfilling, and brings out the best in you

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How to know your talking stage isn’t leading anywhere

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How to know your talking stage isn’t leading anywhere

If you feel stuck in the talking stage, it’s okay to walk away.

How to know your talking stage isn't leading anywhere [MixKit]

The talking stage can be exciting. You’re getting to know someone new, butterflies are fluttering in your tummy, and there’s a ton to talk about.

But sometimes, that exciting feeling starts to fade, and you’re left wondering: “Is this going anywhere?” You might be texting all the time, but are you actually getting closer?

Here’s the thing: the talking stage is supposed to be a fun way to see if you click with someone if you want to take things further. But what if weeks (or even months!) turn into a talking marathon with no clear finish line?

A healthy relationship is a two-way street. This means both people are putting in effort to stay connected.

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Are you the one always initiating calls or texts? Does it feel like you have to drag interesting topics out of your partner? If you’re constantly reaching out and they seem lukewarm, it might be a sign they’re not that interested.

Great conversations are like building a bridge – you share ideas and experiences that connect you. Are your conversations always about the same things, like how you slept or what you ate for lunch? Does it feel like you can never get beyond small talk? If deeper conversations never seem to happen, it might be hard to build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.

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Getting to know someone goes beyond favourite foods and hobbies. Does your partner seem curious about your dreams, fears, or past experiences? Do they share their own vulnerabilities with you? If the conversations never go beyond surface-level topics, it might be a sign they’re not interested in the real you.

Texting and calling are great, but a real relationship involves spending time together face-to-face. Does your partner seem hesitant to meet up in person? Do they constantly flake on plans or come up with last-minute excuses? If seeing you in person never seems to be a priority, it might be a sign they’re not looking for something serious.

Sometimes, people keep things casual because they’re not sure what they want from a relationship. Have you ever talked about what you’re both looking for? Does your partner avoid the topic of exclusivity, or seem hesitant to define the relationship? If you’re both on different pages about what you want, it might be hard to move forward.

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Sometimes, there might be bigger issues that make a relationship unlikely to work. Does your partner show signs of disrespect, controlling behaviour, or dishonesty? Are there dealbreakers, like different values or life goals, that can’t be overcome? If there are red flags waving in your face, it’s important to listen to them.

If you’re unsure where things stand, it’s always best to talk to your partner openly and honestly. Let them know you’d like something more than just talking, and see how they respond. If they’re on the same page, great! If not, it might be time to move on and find someone who’s looking for the same things you are.