That’s definitely a headline-grabber from Toke Makinwa. Her honesty about where she is emotionally and mentally in her personal life is pretty striking—and it’s sparking some important conversations about relationships, independence, and societal expectations, especially for successful women in their 30s and 40s.
Her comments about possibly being open to being a second, third, or even fifth wife might sound controversial on the surface, but underneath that is a very real sentiment: the fatigue of always being the one in charge, always carrying the emotional and financial weight, and just wanting a safe space to lean into someone else’s strength.
It’s also interesting how she tied that into the idea of independent women glamourising independence. There’s a lot of truth in that duality—wanting to have it all, but also craving softness, support, and partnership.
Her past with Maje Ayida, and the media buzz about Farouk Umar, probably adds even more pressure. So when she says something like, “Must it be me deciding what’s for dinner?”, it’s less about traditional gender roles and more about emotional burnout.
What do you think—are her views a reflection of shifting relationship norms, or more of a personal reckoning with loneliness and societal pressure?